A general survey would tell you that about 50 percent of couples move in together after a year of dating. You may do it because you feel so in love that you just can’t imagine being apart for even a second.
But within the first month, you’d realize that they are some incredible benefits of living together—for instance, it’s way cheaper!
So if you think you’re ready to move in together, take out the time to plan out the entire move because it’s a real nightmare to combine two households.
Here are a few ideas to streamline things.
Declutter Both Spaces
The first step to simplifying anything is to declutter. When working on a creative project, you start by decluttering your thoughts. Think of moving in together as a creative project and start decluttering your existing living space.
Throw away whatever’s broken and unfixable—this includes intangible items like baggage from the past; you don’t need that negativity in your new space.
And donate things that you no longer need. An easy way to do this is by going through your belongings and giving away what you haven’t used in the past three years. If that dress has been too eccentric for you in the last 900 days, it’ll remain so for the next three; purge!
Donate the Duplicates
From big items like refrigerators and washing machines to small things like coffeemakers, irons, and other kitchen appliances, there’ll be tons of things in both households that’ll perform the same function.
Despite how functional they are, it makes no sense to keep two coffeemakers; give away one of them. You can sell it in a garage sale, gift it to friends or family, or donate.
Make A List of Non-Negotiables
While it’s entirely possible to feel in love with your amazing washing machine, remember that it’s also replaceable, while the antique dresser from your great aunt isn’t.
So, make a list of items that you absolutely cannot part with. Ask yourself the following questions when you make this list:
- Does this item spark joy? (Yes, Marie Kondo is our guru!)
- Is it connected to someone I love and miss?
- Will I feel miserable without it?
- Do I actually use it?
You should ask the last question only when you’re not sure about the first three. Otherwise, if an item makes you feel wholesome and happy, that’s enough of a reason to take it into your new life!
Let Space Dictate A Few Decisions
Let’s be honest; your love life isn’t a fairytale, and there’ll be disagreements between you and your partner. For instance, you may feel that your couch is a better style than your partner’s!
But you still have to make a decision as to whose couch actually stays. Skip the arguments and be realistic. Go over to the new house, take some measurements, think logically about what fits and better suits the space. For example, a comtemporary couch and ottoman won’t fit in a minimalistic theme, Don’t hesitate to make a compromise if you have to; that’s what’s going to keep your relationship healthy and happy.
Agree on Functionality Rather Than Style
It’s completely normal to fall in love with somebody and question their style choices from time to time. But disagreements on style choices can get messy during moving in together.
When you feel like there are duplicate items that you both can’t part with, you need to make some tough but reasonable choices. Evaluate both items based on their functionality and monetary value. Follow this checklist for both items:
- How much did it cost?
- When was it bought, and how long is it expected to last?
- What’s the better brand?
- What are the unique features?
Discussing the matter in these logical terms will help you both make a reasonable choice based on facts rather than emotions.
Divide the House into Zones
This can be convenient not only during the moving and renovating process but also for your future experience of sharing a house. Go over the house plan and divide it into zones equally.
After you’ve each agreed on which zone belongs to whom, officially sign overall planning rights related to that zone over to your partner. Of course, some spaces, for instance, your bedroom, will be shared spots. But the creating boundaries will help you plan and arrange the kitchen, garage, basement, study, and similar spaces.
This will help you divide responsibilities and give both of you equal control over the new house without conflicting interests.
Place Extra Focus on Heavily Shared Spaces
While you’re assigning zones, you’ll realize that some spaces can’t be divided. A heavily shared space falls into both of your jurisdictions.
Place extra focus on planning these spaces. This could be your bedroom or the closet, or even the living room. Be considerate of each other’s choices, emotions, and needs. Keep an open mind and be willing to make compromises.
Consider Storage Options
Some items are confusing. No matter how long you hold them, it’s difficult to know if they spark joy or not. Maybe they did in the past, or perhaps they have the potential to spark joy in the future. Either way, it’s hard to decide.
Such items should go in storage. If you have storage space in the new house, discuss with your partner and move the unused items there. Or, if you just need some time to decide, place them in a storage facility. You could keep them at your parent’s or a friend’s house with their consent.
Communication Is Key
This is relationship 101. And it’s just as crucial while moving in together. Both partners should be well aware of each other’s hard boundaries. Plan extensively and share your thoughts with your partner.
You can make a list of things that require team decisions and then think over these things collectively. For example, if you think a piece of furniture is simply not working in the space and is causing you stress, communicate the concern to your partner and find a way around it. Since both of you have to share the space for hopefully a long time, make sure you’re equally content with it.
Invest in Professional Moving Services
Moving can be stressful and chaotic. No matter how much you plan, you’re only human, and there’s only so much you can do. While you probably started decluttering and boxing small items weeks before, there will be tons left to do anyway.
Overworking yourself will cause stress; avoid being unreasonably cranky in such times to steer clear of nonsensical arguments and fights.
For more help in moving, invest in a professional moving service Seattle. They will help remove a huge chunk of the burden, ensuring an easy, breezy transition.
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